I have come to the point in my life where I think I might hate clothing. The thought of moving to a place where it is optional is getting to be more and more appealing. I'm kidding. Mostly. But really, think about how much of our lives revolve around clothes: dressing in it, washing it, drying it, folding it, putting it away, packing it away, giving it away, buying it, re-selling it, heck even making it. Sheesh.
I used to be (read: pre-marriage and pre-children) pretty dang stylish. And I made most of my clothes. Wake up early on Sunday, not like anything in my closet, whip out something before church. You think I'm kidding? I'm not. I made my wedding dress folks. Then enter pregnancy, nursing and 5 children later my figure ain't what it was. I'm sort of okay with that, the figure thing. But I just couldn't find anything in the stores that I liked style wise to dress this new lumpier figure. Weight is now slowly coming off and guess what I learned? Much to my chagrin, now that I am several sizes smaller than I was this time last year, as sure as I was that once I lost the weight to fit into size_____ I still can't find clothes I like. Fashion didn't change when my size did. Rats.
I grew up in the homeschooling circle, and that, if you haven't noticed, can be a little subculture of it's own. We didn't have any strict dress code we followed. Most of my clothes were hand me downs, garage sale and thrift store purchases. Most new clothes outside of undies and socks were usually received as Christmas and birthday gifts. And I never thought to question modesty. Seems to me in the '80's and '90's that fashion in general was on the more modest scale, outside of the occasional "punk" groups.
I wore a mixture of jeans and dresses and as I got older, I became more intrigued by the Amish, Mennonites and what my mom dubbed "Denim-ites". The very small number of people we new who wore dresses all of the time were always dressed nicely, and were friendly and cheerful. Denim-ites seemed to think that sour cold expressions showed your devotion to God and your realization that life is somber and to be taken seriously you unwholesome-jean-clad-giddy-charismatic-Christian-you. Don't you know that the more it looks like you shut your eyes, reached into the closet and wore whatever you pulled out, the closer you are to God? That girls should be wearing dresses that are passed down from their older sisters and are 3 sizes too big and boys should be wearing clothes passed up from their little brothers and are at least 3 sizes too small? If the girls aren't tripping on their hems, and the boys don't have 4 inches of white sock showing between their tennis shoes and pants hem, while being slowing choked to death on their buttoned-to-the-top shirts, well. You must not take 1 Timothy 2 very seriously. Nobody will look at you dressed all nice and think "Wow, I bet you're a Christian!" Nope, takes a stained up jean jumper and ill-fitting clothes to spread the Word of God. People look at us and *know* we are Christians yessrireebob.
I would like to say I'm exaggerating, but. I'm not. I go to our home school convention every year. I also know that you *can* buy decent clothes at the thrift store (if you're not me. I'm somehow the exception, can't find diddly.)
I will now insert that I have no idea of how many people read this blog, nor what their background is, so, if you are at all offended by this it was not directed as an insult. Unclench. Maybe take a little break from reading. If you don't come back I won't be hurt.
But think about it: If you are a non-believer, and see 2 groups of people- one somber and modestly attired in Denim-ite wear, and the other group dressed like- let's say mmmm- the Duggars (modestly attired, happy, having fun), who would have the better chance at making you think "Boy, I want to check out this Christianity thing more" ?
That will have to do it for today, I have baking and dishes to do, but since I feel like I should include some sort of picture I will take this monstrosity from several years ago:
Scary and horribly proportioned on me.


14 comments:
I'm liking this... and I'm coming back - yes-sir-ee-bob!
You look GREAT, Bonnie...you are so funny...you crack me up! :P
I agree with what you've written here. It's amazing how much people do judge us on our outward appearance and sadly if we are Christians they often incorrectly judge God on our outward appearance and actions. You have raised some very good points.
I did have to giggle at your Mum's denim-mites! I probably fit into that today, but then I am in farm clothes.
Have a lovely day and I hope your writers block is gone!
Blessings
Renata:)
Oh Bonnie, I missed you!
It is SO good to hear from you about anything!
First, because I love it when you say yessireebob.
Second, because even when talking about clothes you are hilarious.
"That girls should be wearing dresses that are passed down from their older sisters and are 3 sizes too big and boys should be wearing clothes passed up from their little brothers and are at least 3 sizes too small?"
I died.
That is SO stinkin' funny.
Come back again soon- okay?
Hi Mrs. Bonnie, that little bit about girls passing down their too big jumpers and boys passing UP their too small jeans had me laughing out loud! My husband was homeschooled, and he has a unique sense of fashion but it's actually the OPPOSITE of what he saw growing up (he has a bit of rebelliousness in him!) I have had to convince him through every feminine charm that I have (not much!) and through lots of prayer NOT to... get black tattooed sleeves in a brick pattern on both arms, grow an enormously long beard, buy wide leg jeans in a size 36 (he is 6' and 160lbs. his waist is smaller than mine!) And I'm not sure that he is fully persuaded on any of these things!
I know what you mean about the lumps and bulges. After this third baby, it has been so hard to figure out what clothing best suits my "new shape." I have never really experienced frustration in dressing until now! It is disheartening! One thing that I have found is that a structured shirt (such as a button up) helps conceal my belly and looks best on me; unfortunately that leads me to my archenemy-- the iron! A button up, along with a fitted jacket or just a scarf really helps even things out for me. Also, I only wear skirts that are either "maxi" length (hem rests just on the top of my foot), or just slighty below the knee. Wearing skirts that fall mid calve cuts the leg off instead of elongating that line. For home, I wear a lot of maxi dresses because they are comfortable and I can move in them without putting on a peep show! Seems like I remember that you didn't wear pants... (tho you'd prob look great in navy pants, a blouse and that scarf!) Since you sew, have you ever thought about sewing two long panels of jersey or even a more structured fabric into a long, ankle length skirt with a wide panel of elastic on the waist. Then you could wear it with boots during winter, and flip-flops (or bare feet :) during summer. Just add a structured shirt (left untucked) with a wide belt placed just on the natural waist. You can go a step further for church or a special outing and add a denim jacket or fitted blazer. Tops can also be substituted with a tank top and cardigan for a comfier look (with or without a belt wrapped round!) Then add a nice scarf or funky necklace, maybe a bracelet or watch and you are ready to go!
Sorry for this long post, but you know I love fashion! I don't always get it right, for sure, but I always have fun experimenting :)
Here are some ideas about the skirt: Take heed tho, on the coldwater creek website they show 6' tall 100lb women wearing mid-calve skirts. Since we are not 6' giraffes this look doesn't apply to us! Also, the skirts that are just above the ankle are only worn with high-heeled boots-- not real practical for a homeschooling mom of 5!
http://www.coldwatercreek.com/product-detail/66158/73069/ponte-perfect-flare-skirt.aspx?colorid=030&refLink=womens-skirts.aspx
http://www.zappos.com/product/8276371/color/275
http://www.coldwatercreek.com/product-detail/66139/73050/tencel-boot-skirt.aspx?colorid=L29&refLink=skirts.aspx
http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=374097&locale=en_US&kwid=1&sem=false&sdReferer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2Furl%3Fsa%3Dt%26rct%3Dj%26q%3D%26esrc%3Ds%26source%3Dweb%26cd%3D9%26ved%3D0CLsBEBYwCA%26url%3Dhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.oldnavy.com%252Fproducts%252Fwomens-plus-jersey-maxi-skirts-P374097.jsp%26ei%3Dp1hyUuPQFoqxsQTFuYHIDQ%26usg%3DAFQjCNFc3P7vGObI3Hcdnsx15xisQG2Bkg%26sig2%3Dysfpu_UR6750Tfit2hR9pQ%26bvm%3Dbv.55819444%2Cd.cWc#close
http://livingoutsidethestacks.com/2013/07/maxi-skirt-or-seamless-yoga-pants-in-the-closet/
http://thewinthropchronicles.blogspot.com/2013/05/wearing-maxi-skirt-three-ways.html
Goodness I just love fashion, can I visit you and be your personal shopper? :)
New Mom - I just love you :-) And being Bonnie's sister, she would love a personal shopper. She has told me that many times. You would be fun to shop with! :-)
Anna, I am glad you posted! I got your e-mail but accidentally deleted it before I could reply. I think that is totally awesome that you are writing a book-- I am convinced that the girls in your family can do pretty much anything! Let me know when you do, I'd love to read it.
I joke about the personal shopper bit, but I often go with my friends shopping to help give my "opinions." The hard part is when they aren't taken ;)
I realize my comment was not on topic but I could not find your email. Mine is ladylydiaspeaks@comcast.net, so please contact me
I homeschooled my children in the early 1980s and know how the denim style came about. The Laura Ashley and Jessica McClintock designs were in all the stores and heartened back to the old western movies with a touch of the Victorian. Women lived them, and they were very expensive but the big box stores had similar clothes. Not only homeschoolers wore them. They were extremely popular partly due to the fact they were a stylish trend of the time. Even career women wore the jumpers and blouses and things we call mommy wear today. It was a style suitable for all ages and I can remember many wealthy
Women wearing it and just everyone in general. However in the late 1990s the style was undermined by other designers who hated the feminine look and wanted to get women back to the 1960s shorter skierts and tighter clothes. The homeschoolers just happened to stay with the style longer because it worked so well at home and out of the home, was washable and so comfortable. It was not a style invented by them but it is pinned on them because they kept wearing it long after it was no longer a trend. Everyone was wearing it during its heyday, even the non- religious women.
Hi Mrs. Bonnie, can you e-mail me when you get a chance?
Thanks!
Great post. Lydia, yes, remember when everybody wore that stuff back in the 80's, and then it died out. I don't like the modern styles myself. The Laura Ashley stuff from back in the 80's looked better.
Hi, Bonnie! I just wanted you to know that I miss reading your blog posts and your comments on Rebecca's blog. I hope all is well with you and your family. :)
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